August 11, 2012

Do you find yourself trying to control the outcome of things?

The Lilac flower essence can help you better adapt to change as you:

  • Let go of rigid ideas, loosen and go with the flow.
  • Free yourself from clinging to things being a certain way, transforming attachments to people, places and outcomes.
  • Accept the impermanence of life—everything changes.
Lilac is also found in our Boundless Wisdom blend


Many people adore lilacs—and for some it’s their favorite flower of all time. Part of the magic is that they only bloom for a short time, so it brings back a specific type of nostalgic time for people ... after the freezing cold winter, when the sun comes out, the days are warmer and the excitement about springtime is abound. Lilacs also bloom near Mother’s Day and remind some people of their mothers and grandmothers.

Lilacs only bloom for several weeks each year in springtime. Inhaling the deep sweet aroma of Lilac flowers is an ephemeral experience and a cherished treat that’s often linked to precious memories.

Our Lilac flower essence is really special, because it’s even more elusive and precious—growing in the high desert of Santa Fe, New Mexico, at an altitude of over 7,000 feet. Originally brought to the area in the 1851, Lilacs now grow wild in Santa Fe. The flowers look the same, but the plant looks different from the Lilac in northern regions of the U.S. Not as tall and bushy—it’s more delicate and seems somehow more fleeting than the lilacs in the north. 

I never would’ve guessed that Lilacs would grow in the high desert, so when I discovered them on a trip to Santa Fe, I immediately set out to make their essence. Lucky I did, because a year later—due to a drought—they didn’t bloom at all. They grew their rich, glossy green leaves in springtime ... but no flowers bloomed. So this essence is a treasure!

lilac Boundless wisdom Lotuswei flower essence elixir blend essences

What It Reveals

If you're attracted to the Lilac flower, you may be clinging to things being a certain way. There may be a situation in which you want to control the outcome. You may wish for things to be different, and when your expectations are not met, find yourself feeling uncomfortable or depressed. When plans unexpectedly change, you may find it difficult to adapt quickly enough.

There may be areas of your life in which you've become controlling or rigid in your ideas. You may find yourself being hard on yourself for this reason, or judging what is best for others. At times you may feel there's only one right way, which closes you off to other possibilities.


What It Catalyzes

Activate: Flexibility
Message: Adapt quickly to changes.

The Lilac plant has tremendous strength and fortitude, with flowers that teach us how to accept the impermanence of life. Everything changes. And not surprisingly, this is wisdom that the Lilac Flower Essence imparts:

Lilac helps us loosen up and free ourselves from clinging to things being a certain way, transforming attachments to people, places and outcomes.

It gives us a taste of non-attachment which is very freeing, helping us embrace change and go with the flow. It helps us be more flexible, while letting go of rigid ideas and the desire to control outcomes.

lilac Boundless wisdom Lotuswei flower essence elixir blend essences

Just as Lilac flowers come and go in the blink of an eye, the elixir allows us to cherish the life, just as it is.

Life is so fleeting: Lilac helps us adapt quickly to surprises with a flexible, accepting heart.

And the Lilac fragrance is elusive—only allowing itself to be captured with mindful tending and a several-day process, slowing us down to the rhythm of Mother Nature. Lilacs teach us patience, which is another word for "being at peace with the way things are."



Lilacs (Syringa vulgaris) are native to Asia and Eastern Europe. They were brought to the Americas in the 1600s. Like many plants that were transported across the big oceans to the Americas, the first Lilacs were planted in botanical gardens. Both Thomas Jefferson and George Washington grew Lilacs in their personal gardens.

Butterflies love Lilacs, too! They are the pollinators of Lilacs, so anytime you’re around these colorful beauties, the magic and gentle fluttering of butterflies abounds.

Lilacs are in the broader genus of Oleaceae, which is the olive family. Surprisingly, there are 1,000 different varieties of Lilac bushes and trees! Lilac bushes grow from six to twenty feet tall. Lilac trees in Asia, like the Peking Lilac Tree and the Japanese Lilac Tree, both grow over 30 feet tall.

lilac Boundless wisdom Lotuswei flower essence elixir blend essences

I tend to think of lilacs as a deep violet, but lilacs can be white, pink, red, lavender, yellow and blue! Many people believe that the deep purple flower clusters tend to have strongest fragrance, but really it depends on the the species of the particular plant, along with its terroir, the conditions of its environment: moisture, soil conditions, location, climate and weather patterns.

Though the flower is extremely delicate, the Lilac plant is extremely hardy; some varieties can survive temperatures down to –60° F. The wood is extremely dense, and has been used to create musical instruments and knives. And their longevity is impressive: Lilac bushes can live for hundreds of years!   


What People Are Saying

"I have been taking this flower essence and Inner Peace for the last month. I really feel that this has helped me be more flexible in situations accept things as they are. I normally hate been at home and would have been really frustrated and scared about the Covid-19 situation, but I have been surprised of how well I have handled it. I have just accepted that there is nothing I can do and made the most of the situation. This is not normally how I act... I just realized that it must be this Lilac flower essence that has helped!" —Lindsey

"I have always loved the smell of lilacs & while this doesn't smell like them, the energy & joy they bring is powerful. I have had difficulty accepting things as they are, want to things to be different, and strong resistance to not trying to change what I don't like. I can't believe the tremendous relief & freedom I feel from the deep feeling of acceptance. Acceptance of others, myself, and how things are. Another fabulous LOTUSWEI offering." —Sara

"This flower essence called to me when I first saw it! I ended up getting a bottle the second time stopping by the spa that carries these. I feel like it has brought some extra positivity and patience into my life which I so desperately have been needing help with. Tastes great too when dropping directly under my tongue." —Hannah Jordan

"I can't say that I've been revolutionized, as I'm just beginning to enjoy this amazing product. But, as I take the delicious drops, I am reminded of my beautiful mother, whose name was Lila and whose lilac tree is just now blooming. She left the earth over a year ago, in peace and luminous beauty. I relish the taste as I enjoy her memory. And, as I take the drops, I remind myself that we are all as grass, a vapor, only here a little while. Possessions we gather in our years really mean nothing. It's what we hold in our hearts and our minds. Trembling at the beauty of what we have been gifted with in this life and being thankful for each and every breath . . . . The moments of Lilac remind me of that." —D. Simpson

"I may be the Queen of Routine, responding to people in the comfortable patterns that let me speed through my busy-Momma days. But sometimes the problems that line up in front of me to be solved are huger, hairier & bring their friends, too. I feel like my mind has gone down a dead-end alley with no room to turn around! Lilac has become a GREAT friend in showing me all the ways to maneuver and take constructive, adaptive action! I suggest taking lilac also if you have to be a leader in something, and people expect great ideas from you!" —Anonymous

In Essence

Magnifies: Sense of freedom, non-attachment, going with the flow, accepting things they way they are; flexibility and open-mindedness to seeing new opportunities available when attachments are released; ability to embrace change and open to broader perspectives; enhanced ability to rejoice in others’ happiness and accept others as they are without wanting to change them

Dissolves: Attachment, neediness, feeling like there’s only one way, rigid ideas or control, feeling like we’re incomplete without a certain person, place or condition; wishing for things to be a different way, our way, or wishing for things to change


Infused with flower essences for mindful awareness, synchronicity & sacred perspective, Boundless Wisdom helps us look beyond the obvious & perceive the preciousness of every moment.

boundless wisdom Lotuswei flower essence elixir blend essences

Love + flower petals,